Relationship
Red Flags
Navigating
the road to love can be tricky, so you need to be aware of the signs you see
during your journey, especially the Red Flags. Although there are a myriad of
signs, I will just name a few.
1. He
still lives at home
Okay
I get it. Situations may arise in one’s life that causes them to return to the
nest. Illness, losing a job, elderly parents, I get that. Well losing a job, I’d
have to think on that one, but anyway there are some legitimate reasons why a
man is still living at home. So is living at home really a red flag?
Yes!
Men who still live at home are in no hurry to grow up, become independent or financially
responsible. Are those things you would want in a future partner? If you’re not
careful he’ll trade in his momma’s couch for yours.
2. He never invites you over
“My
place is a mess. I live in a bad neighborhood. My boy is going through some
relationship problems and is on my couch.” Yeah right.
If
he never wants you to come over and always wants to hang out at your place ask
yourself why. Does he have a family he’s not telling you about, is he in a
relationship with someone else? Or refer
to Relationship Red Flag #1 “He still lives at home.”
3. He constantly talks bad about an ex
So
he had a bad relationship, she cheated, she lied, she slept with his friends.
He’s hurt and is learning how to trust again. BUT, you’re not his therapist.
It
could be that he has not gotten over her. He may deflect his animosity about
his ex on to you. He may control you because she betrayed hm.
Your
relationship should be about you two; not you, him and her.
In
all things that you do look at the signs, don’t ignore them. Weigh the pros and
cons. Ask yourself would you want your daughter, sister or best friend to be in
a relationship with this person?
Follow
your instincts, don’t ignore them. It’s the universes way of alerting you to “Red
Flags are Ahead!”
