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Smooches!

Dating In DC 101 ~ "What Men Want"

Hello stranger. Oh, it was me who disappeared on you. You know how it is; life, vacation, work, and did I say life? Well that's no excuse for deserting a friend. My apologies, but I'm back baby!

So where did we leave off? We were checking out the book "What Men Want" and we were up to Chapter 5, "The First Date", Part II. Wow, this is one long chapter. In Chapter 5 our three bachelors talked about the dream date, the nightmare date and where to go.

Now we are ready for:

Chapter 5 ~ "The First Date" Part III

Go With the Flow

He suggest somewhere or something that you really aren't interested in doing, but our bachelors suggest just going with the flow. So what if it is a work night or past your self-appointed bedtime, you can DVR that episode of Jeopardy you've seen 100 times. If all goes well on that first date, you can negotiate the place and time of the second one.

If you have to end the date early let him know you had a great time, and you'd like to see him again. If you had a terrible time, go to the ladies room and disappear (just kidding). But I'm sure he can sense when there will be no follow-up date.

Now it's time to pay the piper, I mean the waiter. 

Who Pays?

If he asks you out on the first date then definitely he should pay. Check him out by offering to contribute to the bill, if he accepts, put him on the "Not Going To See Him Again" list.

If it's a full night of dinner, drinks, cabs, coffee, then offer to buy a round of drinks or pay for the coffee. Just take care of it discreetly and he will appreciate the gesture. Casually mention as he reaches yet again for his wallet, "I took care of this round." 

A Second Date?

If he asks about a second date he is interested in you, so be prepared. Don't act coy and uninterested if you aren't coy and uninterested. If you like him let him know.

"I'll Call You"

If he barely slows the care down to drop you off and yells "I'll call you" from the moving car, don't expect him to. He's already deleting your number from his cell at the next stop sign.

Ignore it, don't analyze it, just know he ain't calling and move on.

There are those who are just serial first daters, sometimes those first dates can turn in to long lasting relationships.

Smooches & Happy Dating!

Dating In DC 101 ~ "What Men Want"

Chapter 5 ~ "The First Date" Part II

Now remember these are words from the mouths of three New York male professionals: A lawyer, a surgeon, and a CPA. Agree with them or not, this is their perspective and I'm just sharing their insight with you. So let's finish where we left off, "The First Date".

Where to Go

• If he takes the initiative to plan the date, then go for it, unless it is dangerous or truly crazy. He doesn't want to spend time agonizing over the details of where to go and what to do only to be shot down by you.

"You want to go there? That place is terrible. I wouldn't take my dog there!"

• Men typically like cozy, intimate, unpretentious places for first dates. Nothing says "Good First Date" like a good piano bar.

Fortunately for us in the Nation's Capital we have so many great places to choose from.

Piano Bars

Cigar Bars (well not so much, but I like them)

Poetry Readings

All good choices

• If he chooses a movie as a first date, he is either shy, dating challenged, or doesn't want to be seen in public with you. And you have to discern which one of these issues is the real reason you're sitting in a dark theater, with a bucket of greasy popcorn on your lap and a gynormous coke in the cup holder.

Hopefully it is a movie you really want to see, 

or

just take a nap. 

You don't have to worry about snoring, no one can hear you, 

not even your date.

• Museums and art exhibits are excellent choices too. He has some culture and wants to get to know you better. Hopefully he will let you know in advance so that you can do a little research on what artist is being featured or the history of the stone that is being previewed. If he surprises you, then asks questions, men love to think they are teaching you a thing or two.

Chapter 5 is a long one so there is more to come. Stay tuned and

Smooches and Happy Dating!

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Just Saying ~ Green Coffee Bean Extract

Hello, I'm so glad you dropped by. Some of you have been here before trying to get some insight on the wonders of the amazing "Green Coffee Bean Extract".

Well, some time ago I took the extract for about a month without any great results to report and decided it didn't work and put them on the medicine cabinet shelf.

And then recently, during a trip to Raleigh, North Carolina my girlfriend's mom started the "Green Coffee Bean" chatter. Her waist was smaller, she was losing weight, she felt young again. Hell, I was waiting for her to say she was leaping tall buildings in a single bound. With that kind of testimony how could I resist giving them another try?

When I got home from that trip, I went straight to the medicine cabinet, grabbed the bottle off the shelf and damn it, only two pills left. I needed to expedite burning all the fat I had stored during my trip to Raleigh.

I jumped in my car, and drove to Costco, (I'm sure you have similar warehouse clubs like Sam's or B.J.'s) and got my mega bottle of the extract. There was no way I was going to wait until the weekend. No frickin' way to start getting rid of that fat.

It's been about two months now and this is my assessment. I've lost a few pounds without really changing my eating habits or exercise routine. It doesn't appear that I've lost any inches, YET, but I am hopeful.

One thing I have realized is that even when I over eat on the weekends, jump on the scale Monday mornings and have gained two or three pounds they don't seem to stick. Within a day or two that weight is gone, where as in the past I really had to work at getting it off.

So I've decided at some point to add more exercise and better eating habits while on my "Green Coffee Bean" regimen and see where it takes me.

Until then, I'll be sipping on some homemade  Sangria.  Cheers!

Just Saying....

Dating In DC 101 ~ "What Men Want"

Chapter 5 ~ "The First Date" Part I

Dream or Nightmare?

The Nightmare Date:

• She won't stop talking about her Ex
• "It was just a complete mess. He cheated, he lied, he kicked my dog. I don't know how I survived the whole thing. And the snoring, it went on for hours. Oh, and one time when we went to the beach and he kicked sand..."

 He's thinking, I wish she would go kick rocks. Or,

• "He was so good to me, unfortunately his job moved him to the Far East and you know long distance relationships are just so hard. I really miss him, we were very good friends. Most great relationships start as great friendships, I just miss him so much. And my parents just adored him. He and my father just bonded right away and my mother just couldn't get enough of his funny stories."

• Too Serious Too Soon
• "When I get married I'd like to have a spring wedding. What do you think? I want my bridesmaids to wear mint green. You know mint is in this season? Who would you have as your best man?"

 Really, wedding talk on a first day. Who are you? DESPERATE!

• "Sorry I'm a little out of sorts, my NaNa died recently and I just haven't recovered. I was her little Princess. She spoiled me rotten 'cause I was her favorite. I remember one time she made us matching aprons and we baked cookies. Boy I miss my NaNa." 

What? Your NaNa died about 10 years ago and yes it was sad and yes you do miss her; but jeez, what is he supposed to say while handing you a tissue while you're crying about your NaNa on your first date?

Either of these scenarios will have him yelling "CHECK" before the entrée arrives.

The Dream Date:

• She's Nice, Kind, and Considerate
• Drop a dollar in the homeless person's cup in front of the restaurant. 

Dang it, he wasn't looking; now you have to give that loser another dollar on the way out.

• Make small talk with the elderly lady waiting to be seated. 

You're thinking, if this old bitty doesn't get out of my way I'm just gonna push her to the floor.

• Be courteous to the staff of the establishments you visit.

"Hello, how are you?"

Who cares? Just bring me my appetizers PRONTO!

• Smile even if it hurts!

And boy does it hurt.

• She's Flexible and Easy Going
• "Sure I'd love to go horseback riding on the mall tonight.I know it's hot but we can pick up some waters to take with."

You know damn well you don't want to ride a smelly horse in the middle of a D.C. summer. Yuck!

• "I'm laid back and drama free. Nothing bothers me. It might be those yoga classes. I don't let anyone or anything mess with my Zen."

You say this as you yell across the restaurant, "Can I get another Gin and Tonic over here!"

Oopsy!

Next session we will discuss: Where to Go, Going With the Flow, Who Pays, The Prospect of a Second Date, and the infamous "I'll Call You."

Smooches and Happy Dating!

 

Dating In DC 101 ~ "What Men Want"

Chapter 4 ~ "The First Phone Call"

Where did we leave off? Oh, yeah "The First Encounter." Everything went swimmingly when you two met, he asked for your number and now your home waiting for that first phone call.

While you wait, you're imagining your first date, you might even mouth your first name with his last. How do the two names sound together? Don't act like you've never done that before. Remember when we were in grade school and had our first crush? We would write our name over and over replacing our last name with the boy we were sure we were going to marry last name. What was his name again?

At the same time he's sitting at home contemplating whether or not to call even though you had a great first encounter. What the....?

"What Men Want" says there are several reasons he might not call:

• The fear of rejection. He may fear that maybe you have reconsidered and regret giving him your number.
• He has reconsidered and is no longer interested and now that he is sober feels that you really aren't his type.
• He's too busy, but when he gets bored and has nothing else to do he might ring you up.
• He never had any intentions of calling and just wanted to see if he could get the number.

With that out of the way, what does encourage him to call?:

• Let him know that you like him during the first encounter.
• He might be looking for something casual and you fit the bill, casual.
• He might need a date for an upcoming the event, you have become the stand-in.
• He's a player and now you're on the list of good-time girls.
• Hopefully, he is generally interested and wants to get to know you better.

You're still checking your phone. When will he call? He's pondering the situation and the possibilities are:

• In his mind if he calls too soon he might appear desperate.
• If he waits too long you might think he isn't interested and now he runs the risk of being rejected when he does finally call.
• If he is interested he will call within a week.

But hold the phone; if you exchanged numbers give him a call. Men are usually impressed when a woman takes the initiative to call them first.

Smooches and Happy Dating!

Dating In DC 101 ~ "What Men Want"

Chapter 3 ~ "The First Encounter"

Oh, it's love at first sight for you and him. But who is going to make that uncomfortable first move?

According to our Authors, men know immediately if the sparks are there. That's what prompts them and us in to action. Let's be honest, we don't look at someone we really aren't attracted to and say to ourselves, "Yeah, they look like they might make a great partner," or "Hmmm, I wonder if they are good in bed?" Attraction equals action.

He may want to come over and say hello, but the fear of rejection is standing in his way. Now he's weighing the positives and the negatives: Is she married? Is she a lesbian? Does she hate men? Is she having her cycle? Oh, forget it, so they opt to go home and masturbate (their words, not mine) instead of risking it.

After all, they felt the sting of rejection many times. So what can we do to make the trip across the room a little easier for them? That is, if you are interested too.

If you are out with a group of people he will be hesitant to approach you. Who wants to walk across the room, approach a person who is with a group of people who are probably in earshot of what he is about to say and possibly be shot down like a missile flying in unauthorized air space? Not me and certainly not a man.

Now there are some men who are confident and seize the opportunity, saunter over and say a few words to get your attention. Trust and believe, he's practiced that line the whole time he was checking you out or it has worked on a few other women so they decide to stick with what they know.

If you're not digging his vibe and shoe him away, he now feels like a midget at a giant convention, with a third eye square in the middle of his forehead. He whispers something not so nice under his breath and heads straight to the bar. "Give me a double!"

But if you kind of like him too, you excuse yourself from your group, chat with him off to the side and find yourself tee-hee-ing at things you normally would find ridiculous.

Now you two are connecting. The trip across the room was worth the journey.

The next chapter is "The First Phone Call." Ring you later, or do they?

Smooches and Happy Dating!