Today's episode on the "Taylor Love" Show was about cheating.
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a relationship. Some of us look inward and wonder what the other person does or have that we don't have. Some times we compare ourselves with the other person. But at the end of the day we just simply wonder why.
We may never know what causes a person to cheat, and if we are the cheater we may have a myriad of reasons we tell ourselves that what we are doing is okay.
At the end of the day it is all so complicated.
If we've been cheated on we wonder will they do it again; can they be trusted? To that I say, base your decision on their actions: Are they where they say they are, do they answer their phone when you call, are they forthcoming with their comings and goings. As the cheater it seems as though you're checking in, your every move is scrutinized, and you have to account for every move and every moment. Well you are right. That's what happens when you're a cheater. You have to rebuild your significant others trust by being totally transparent. How long do you have to be subjected to this scrutiny? As long as it takes to make your significant other to feel comfortable and be able to trust again. And if the relationship is not important enough to do the work, then it's all moot.
If you're the cheater, you have some self analysis to do. Why are you cheating? What is lacking in you that causes you to look outside of the relationship. First you must realize that cheating is not about the other person but it is about you. Certainly you can be single and see who you want, when you want. Why haven't you chosen that option. Self-examination is key.
Once a Cheater, Always A Cheater?
It depends. Some people will be habitual cheaters, It's always the other person's fault that they stray. If your eyes are wide open you can see people for who they really are. "When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” Maya Angelou.
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