Dating In DC 101 ~ "What Men Want"

Chapter 3 ~ "The First Encounter"

Oh, it's love at first sight for you and him. But who is going to make that uncomfortable first move?

According to our Authors, men know immediately if the sparks are there. That's what prompts them and us in to action. Let's be honest, we don't look at someone we really aren't attracted to and say to ourselves, "Yeah, they look like they might make a great partner," or "Hmmm, I wonder if they are good in bed?" Attraction equals action.

He may want to come over and say hello, but the fear of rejection is standing in his way. Now he's weighing the positives and the negatives: Is she married? Is she a lesbian? Does she hate men? Is she having her cycle? Oh, forget it, so they opt to go home and masturbate (their words, not mine) instead of risking it.

After all, they felt the sting of rejection many times. So what can we do to make the trip across the room a little easier for them? That is, if you are interested too.

If you are out with a group of people he will be hesitant to approach you. Who wants to walk across the room, approach a person who is with a group of people who are probably in earshot of what he is about to say and possibly be shot down like a missile flying in unauthorized air space? Not me and certainly not a man.

Now there are some men who are confident and seize the opportunity, saunter over and say a few words to get your attention. Trust and believe, he's practiced that line the whole time he was checking you out or it has worked on a few other women so they decide to stick with what they know.

If you're not digging his vibe and shoe him away, he now feels like a midget at a giant convention, with a third eye square in the middle of his forehead. He whispers something not so nice under his breath and heads straight to the bar. "Give me a double!"

But if you kind of like him too, you excuse yourself from your group, chat with him off to the side and find yourself tee-hee-ing at things you normally would find ridiculous.

Now you two are connecting. The trip across the room was worth the journey.

The next chapter is "The First Phone Call." Ring you later, or do they?

Smooches and Happy Dating!