Dating In DC 101 ~ "What Men Want"

Chapter 4 ~ "The First Phone Call"

Where did we leave off? Oh, yeah "The First Encounter." Everything went swimmingly when you two met, he asked for your number and now your home waiting for that first phone call.

While you wait, you're imagining your first date, you might even mouth your first name with his last. How do the two names sound together? Don't act like you've never done that before. Remember when we were in grade school and had our first crush? We would write our name over and over replacing our last name with the boy we were sure we were going to marry last name. What was his name again?

At the same time he's sitting at home contemplating whether or not to call even though you had a great first encounter. What the....?

"What Men Want" says there are several reasons he might not call:

• The fear of rejection. He may fear that maybe you have reconsidered and regret giving him your number.
• He has reconsidered and is no longer interested and now that he is sober feels that you really aren't his type.
• He's too busy, but when he gets bored and has nothing else to do he might ring you up.
• He never had any intentions of calling and just wanted to see if he could get the number.

With that out of the way, what does encourage him to call?:

• Let him know that you like him during the first encounter.
• He might be looking for something casual and you fit the bill, casual.
• He might need a date for an upcoming the event, you have become the stand-in.
• He's a player and now you're on the list of good-time girls.
• Hopefully, he is generally interested and wants to get to know you better.

You're still checking your phone. When will he call? He's pondering the situation and the possibilities are:

• In his mind if he calls too soon he might appear desperate.
• If he waits too long you might think he isn't interested and now he runs the risk of being rejected when he does finally call.
• If he is interested he will call within a week.

But hold the phone; if you exchanged numbers give him a call. Men are usually impressed when a woman takes the initiative to call them first.

Smooches and Happy Dating!