I was so excited to see that Iyanla was back for a new season or at least another episode. For me, it is the best show on Oprah's network. I watched it faithfully and jotted helpful notes in my journal that I could apply to my everyday life.
I set my DVR, got my journal out and sat glued to my T.V. I heard what she was saying and understood it, but at the end of the program I was still at a lost as to what real life actions women can take to find an appropriate mate.
We know that we should love ourselves, not be afraid of intimacy, and should stop doubting that we will ever find the love we desire and deserve. We've heard this on every talk show, read it in every book and magazine article on finding love, and even from our single girl-friends. So now what?
Her homework to the single women who wants to be in a relationship was to smile and speak to every man you see for the next seven days. And if he should follow you for a follow-up conversation then give him your number. I'm pretty sure that she didn't mean that literally, after all in a day we pass the crazy, the homeless, the perverted and the weird. I sure don't want them following me or you for a "Follow-Up" conversation.
I think my homework is a little more realistic; every man that you see ask yourself "Would I be excited to see him come through my door?" And if the answer is "Yes" then give him a smile and a hello. If he pursues you then at least he will be someone you can picture yourself with down the road.
I know this seems superficial but at the end of the day we are driven by our senses, and the sense of sight is one that can't be ignored. But don't fall in to the trap that if it looks good it is good. Remember everything that glitters isn't gold, but now you have someone in your sights that you don't mind looking at.
Smooches, and Happy Dating!
I so agree with and I love following your blogs.
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